Recently in the local news a city employee had defriended all her Facebook friends and got on a bike without her cell phone and disappeared. She was depressed. My friend is one of her friends. Toni is her name and had been missing for two days. This was the second time Toni had done this. She had recently lost her partner and was devastated. The first time, she wrote on her legs, The Pain is unbearable and Stop the pain. It is true the pain from loss is the hardest to go through. It isn't something you can make stop, it has to be endured like the Buddhists tell us.
Life hands us times where we need to just stand, to endure the pain. Most of the time, we sit around and scratch and preen. Nothing to see really. But its nice to have a mate to do it with. The true meaning of friendship....just being there for one another. Toni was found disoriented and wandering aimlessly along the road by a stranger. She is in the hospital now and my friend has been able to talk with her friend. Hopefully Toni will know now that the secret of life is sharing the passage of time, with real friends....the ones who have been looking for her, waiting for her and praying for her.